Every marriage needs a Threesome

Marriage is hard. It is very, very hard. Of all the many relationship dynamics that take shape in this life, there are none that require quite what marriage does.

Love. Service. Sacrifice. Selflessness. Unity.

Oneness.

Oneness. That might be just the thing that defines the difficulty of marriage. How exactly do two… become one?

For so many, it remains a mystery. Is there any question, then, why two (as one) so often become… just two again? When marriage is peerless on the scale of relationships, where can we turn to find a model for the complexity and beauty that is this union of love?

In a Threesome.

No, this is not a post about, ahem, spicing things up in the bedroom. This guy stands firmly on faithfulness and fidelity. So what am I speaking about?

The Trinity.

Before time, space and creation – They were. Father. Son. Spirit. They were, and they Loved. They danced. They existed in a co-union. A co-habitation. They continually, and without hesitation or dilution, poured out their Divine Love upon one another. Father was head over heels for His Son, taking delight in Him fully and completely. The Son received His Father’s Love and Praise, and generously returned it back to His Father in adoration. Spirit channeled this two-way, symphony of Love, orchestrating and directing the flow of their Life and Divine Love.

They were:

Love Personified. Serving. Sacrificial. Selfless. Unified.

One.

There was no relationship like it. There still isn’t. The dance of the Triune God has never paused, never stopped. They waltz onward – yet something has changed.

Now, there are more dance partners.

When Jesus embodied God, as One with God, Living by and displaying Divine Life into the earth – He did so with a Purpose. Most will say that He came to save sinners, to die on a Cross for their sins.

And this is true – but there is more. So much more.

Jesus came for His Bride. He came to be the Firstborn among many Brothers and Sisters, in the Family of God. He came to begin the building of God’s House. He came to be the Head of a Body, expressing Divine Life within. He came to announce His Kingship over His Kingdom.

And He did all of this, friend, with you in mind. He came to invite us to dance.

When He ascended He promised to send His One, the Spirit, to be Life-giving and Truth-revealing to those who would seek to see. So many still think of Jesus as “up there” somewhere in the clouds, in Heaven, sitting on His throne, just waiting to return.

I know, however, that Jesus is dancing, not sitting. And He has taken up residence in me, and in you. And He is not alone. Father is there, and so is Holy Spirit. They are. They dance. They Love. They are One.

And now, we are invited in. To be. To dance. To Love. As One.

The Threesome is more “real” than you might have thought. In fact, They are the most real of any force in the universe, across all time and space. They are the fulfillment of true humanity, of Peace, of the Garden restored.

And in marriage, we have been given the most stunning picture of who They are, and what They have invited us into.

It is not by accident that Scripture is full of wedding and Husband/Bride imagery. You and I, married in the earth or not, are caught up in an epic Love romance. The romance of the ages.

We are able to participate in the Oneness of wedded bliss with the Trinity of Father, Son and Spirit. When two become One through the covenant of marriage, something is opened up in the spiritual – where in fact, the spiritual collides with the natural – and two get a glimpse of the beauty of Living, really Living… as One, in Oneness.

Loving becomes a Joyful response from Love we have first received.

Serving becomes an act of ministering to the Lord, whereby someone else is a blessed recipient of the overflow.

Sacrifice becomes our new nature – just as Christ’s path went, so too we see as our destiny.

Self is crucified and given over to Another within – as His nature and Life are leading.

Unity becomes the genesis of our Peace – as we find chaos in anything that is less than harmonious.

And Oneness is realized.

This Oneness means a spouse cannot fulfill their dream without also being a part of their One’s dream being fulfilled. This Oneness means that more than body, mind and soul – the spirit of the other One is what is attractive, is what is fully Loved. This Oneness is the epitome of true intimacy. And this Oneness is what it means to Live as part of, as One, with the dance of the Trinity.

Father, Son, Spirit – The Threesome.

One with – you, and your husband/wife.

There is no better way. This is the Divine Design.

Have you had a Threesome in your marriage? Are you ready to dance?